What's The Big Fucking Deal?
 

I just don't get women or men who get all bent out of shape if their spouse has an affair. It's just sex what's the big deal? How do you guys feel about it? I would like to know from both men and women your point of view. I think men and women are driven to have affairs because the truth is we just aren't meant to be with one person solely your entire life sexually. Men are driven by their eyeballs when they see a hot sexy woman and they then lust after and want to bed them. Us Ladies we are a bit more complex in that we need a more cerebral connection. But we also see sexy men that we would like to sleep with but need a higher connection that excites us and opens the door to our pussies. This is a very deep subject. Look how many men get turned on by either the thought of their wives cheating or actually watching their wives fucking another man. I think we are only doing what comes natural to us. Yes we want to have a partner but we also want to have more than just one. I feel one person can't meet all our needs so we look for others who can. Well let me know what you all think. :D

I would love to have my wife resume seeing and fucking other men.

Just sex
 

Wife and I have been swinging for over 35 yrs. We always meet first timers together but if I’m working out of town all week she has invited or had long time friends over. In no way do I expect her to go without sex just because I’m gone from home. Yes I’ve enjoyed the company of women or couples when out of town .
Most men that think their satisfying their wife with a little foreplay and 5 to 10 minuets of sex are crazy. Most women I’ve known could have multiple men each day and enjoy each one. If women or men were only have sex with each other and nothing else the adult sex toy industry would be out of business.

Many of my women friends are totally monogamous, and would freak if they caught their husbands cheating. I can understand how they feel, they'd see it as a betrayal. I was in my early twenties and a highly sexually motivated young woman, when I realized that for me, there was recreational sex and sex with someone I loved. It is different, but good too. I'd had a few one night stands with guys I hadn't really known and they were good. That's when it hit me that I could have sex without an emotional involvement and still really enjoy it.
My husband and I make love, and sometimes we just fuck! There is a difference. I've been blindfolded and fucked when I had no idea who was in me and didn't care because I was really enjoying it. When I first met my husband, (and we met as swingers), after we started to get serious, he told me he didn't do jealousy. He said if I ever made him feel he couldn't trust me, I'd be gone. I understood what he meant, no emotional betrayal, no outside relationship that would ever threaten ours. I love my husband and he loves me, and I also love sex and rarely go without it. I don't lie or cheat, but I can pretty much fuck whenever I feel like it, and I feel like it a lot. For me I'm glad that I discovered one can enjoy love and recreational sex. I must admit I do get a little jealous when he is fucking someone else and I'm not with him. I know, hypocritical.

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It's not a big deal. Society makes it a big deal.

When I was with my youngest sons mom, sex was a regular thing in our household be it between us or us with someone else. We had a male room mate that she really liked. Coming home to them fucking and being woken up by them fucking was a normal thing. They fucked anywhere anytime they wanted...even alongside me in the same bed while I slept.

It was the relationship that made me not into relationships without some sort of sex on the side happening.

I've had a lot of affairs Janie and mostly with married women. A lot of them were close friends with my wife and I was/am good friends with their hubbies ;)
I'm in it just for the sex and I think there is nothing more exciting than fucking a married woman bareback and shooting off in her. I get really horny anytime I think of my wife having an affair but as far as I know she never has. I love the idea of some other man fucking her and shooting off in her :)