When Comfort Becomes Routine

[Sancho69]

My fiancee told me that her male friend is comfortable joining us for sex. I had expressed a concern that he seemed to display an indication that he wanted to make a routine out of our MFM sex relationship. My hunch was right.

In order to prevent my fiancee's male friend thinking we could make our sexual arrangement a routine, she told him that her friend's recently divorced daughter was available. She's 33, about 10 years younger than he. He told my fiancee that he wasn't looking for a girlfriend. He is consumed with transitioning into medical research. He does not have time to date and develop a relationship. He's too consumed and distracted by selling his medical practice and learning medical research. It wouldn't be fair to any woman to endure his stress and time he'll consume with his professional transition.

My fiancee's male friend told her he hadn't had sex in months. He hasn't lost interest in sex. His mind has been preoccupied with transitioning to another profession.

He told her that he was extremely comfortable as the other man in my fiancee's MFM fantasy. During the time they dated, they enjoyed excellent sex. They both love rough, hard, hair pulling, nasty, dirty talking sex. He has told her that she gives the best blow jobs he's ever had. He's very comfortable fucking her. Truth is, she's very comfortable fucking him. He seems to think that he can ride out his professional transition by joining us for sex when he's horny. That is precisely what my fiancee and I wanted to avoid. She is the one who wants to call the shots about when he can join us for sex, not him.

We are doing out New Year's Eve fuck fest. After, I will leave it to my fiancee how she wants to resolve his idea that he can satisfy his sexual desires by joining us when he's horny, which would allow him to pursue his job transition without the burden of lining up his own pussy.

My fiancee is completely comfortable with her male friend joining us to fulfill her MFM sexual fantasies. But she does not want it to become routine. She made that clear to him when she originally asked him to be the other man in her MFM sex fantasies.

[num1scamp]

Originally Posted by kjs1961

You start our referring to him as a male friend but in the middle you mention that they dated in the past.

Nina and I have each met some of each other's exes and are friends with a few of them, but one of the few rules we have when playing with others is no sex with an ex.

There is an emotional attachment. While it might be dormant under the surface, it's still there.
I'd suggest you try to avoid this particular arraignment but it seems to me that she's already decided she's going to have sex with him. With you or without you.

I agree! We have the same rule. The only time I feel jealous is when I see my husband next to someone he had an emotional relationship with, for that very reason we don't do it.

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[Sancho69]

Good Morning kjs1961,

MFM sex is my fiancee's fantasy. I had never had MFM sex. My fiancee has. She absolutely loved it. She wants to experience all of her sexual fantasies before we exchange rings.

My fiancee wants a younger guy who's still in his sexual prime, and she wants a black guy. She'd be in heaven if she would have all three of us at the same time.

She is very close to her male friend. She loves him, but she's not in love with him. He was her closest and most loyal friend while she was enduring unfathomable psychological trauma of divorce. They had an extremely active and thoroughly euphoric sex life.

Since I had never had multiple partner sex and because I knew her male friend, she thought I'd be most comfortable with him as the other man. I was extremely comfortable with him fucking my fiancee's brains out. Long before she had thought of him as the ideal other guy, she had told me in detail about their very active and euphoric sex life.

He is genuinely nice. He wants to transition from practicing medicine to medical research. He is reconciling many issues related to his transition. He has told me stress of practicing medicine (onerous, intrusive bureaucratic bullshit has caused needless burdens and has compromised quality of care) along with an demanding ex-wife, preparing to sell his medical practice, learning nuances of medical research, along with stress related to all facets of his life has caused him to feel buried under an avalanche of stress. He hasn't fucked another woman in many months. He hasn't lost interest in sex. It has become another burden with demands upon time he does not have.

My fiancee is comfortable fucking him because she used to fuck him. Her male friend and she already know how each other like sex. Hence, there was no learning curve. I was good because they has already fucked a million times.

My fiancee does love her male friend, which is totally understandable. He was always available for her during her stressful divorce. They grew very, very close. However, my fiancee has never been in love with him.

If my fiancee wanted to cheat with him, she could. But she doesn't. She made that very clear to him. On the day she told him that she wanted him to me the other man in her MFM fantasy, he wanted to take her to his home and fuck her brains out. She told him that he wasn't getting it. She will never cheat on me, and the only sex they'll have is with me present.

His idea is that he can get his pussy from my fiancee thereby escaping burdens of a girlfriend while he's in process of profession transition. She has told him that that will never happen, which was why she offered to introduce him to her much older girlfriend's recently divorced daughter.

[Sancho69]

Here's how I genuinely feel: although my fiancee's male friend is genuinely nice, and I empathize for him because of his professional transition, and I do respect him for being a loyal friend to my fiancee when she most needed a faithful and loyal friend, I don't care about his sexual needs. I do care about my fiancee's sexual needs. I was not remotely jealous of his fucking her brains out and my fiancee sucking his cock last Thur and Sat. I am sure that because I knew that they used to have a lot of excellent sex caused me to lose any sense of jealousy. She has told me that she has never been in love with him. She had no desire to fuck him again after he returned to his former girlfriend.

I had nodded off for maybe 20 minutes last Thur. When I awoke, he was fucking her missionary. But it seemed odd as though she was allowing him to fuck her. She did not seem to be in to fucking him like she was when she knew I was watching her. She loves to fuck for a male audience. Part of her MFM fantasy is for me to get sexually excited by her porn starring another man. It worked. Watching him fucking her hard and rough doggie, slapping her ass, pulling her hair, and their dirty talking each other was better than watching porn. She was putting on a show for me, a show that did far more for her sexually than me, but I loved it.

Her male friend was convenience. She really wants a younger guy in his sexual prime and a black guy with a monster cock. My fiancee does have genuine affinity for black, athletic men. She loves to fuck huge cocks, but she doesn't like sucking huge cocks. She has told me that she'd rather suck a 5" cock that doesn't gag her than a longer cock. She could never seem to get guys to understand that when they came, they grabbing the back of her head and shoving their cocks down her throat was extremely uncomfortable for her.

[Sancho69]

My fiancee just told me that she'd cut off her male friend in a second. To her, it is merely sexual fantasy. She will never allow any sexual fantasy ruin the rest of her life.