Sexually Frustrated Women

[Sancho69]

I often think about women who endure miserable sex lives because of my fiancee's sexually dysfunctional marriage. There is no reason women cannot experience boundaries of their sexuality.

What percentage of women endure compromised sex lives? What I mean is the percentage of women who are prevented from experiencing their sexual boundaries. What percentage of women are fearful of engaging in open and honest sexual communication with their husbands/fiancees/boyfriends, etc? My guess is it's over 50%.

I remember reading an article while I was in college about a woman who was post-menopausal. She resented her husband because she believed he was the cause of her benign and unfulfilling sex life. I've never forgotten that article. While I was young when I read it, I grasped its significance. Women have sexual desires that they want fulfilled.

My fiancee was every man's dream bride when she married her ex-husband. She was thoroughly sexually experienced. She had incredible sexual confidence. She had exquisite sexual skills. She believed sex and nudity were normal and natural. She loved sex. Her husband was sexually dysfunctional. He thought good sex was mounting her missionary, thrusting until he cam, and rolling off of her. She went from sex once a week to sex once a month, to sex when she could get it and when she got it, it was the worst sex of her life.

She tried to teach him how to have mind-blowing sex. He refused to learn. She once asked him to cum on her tits. It was a completely normal and innocent request. He demeaned and denigrated her and told her she was gross. She never forgave him for that. Men know to never, ever, under no circumstances demean, degrade, denigrate, etc a woman during sex, ever. There are no exceptions to that rule.

My fiancee was in literal fear of talking sex with her ex. She never dared to reveal her sexual fantasies to him, and she has many. He had no clue that he had every man's dream wife. She was an authentic bedroom porn star. He had what all men wish they had. He prevented her from telling him

Years later she found his stash of psych meds. She confronted him. He admitted to suffering from a couple mental illnesses including bipolar. He had the worst tasting cum she ever tasted. She couldn't figure out why his cum almost made her sick until she found his stash of psych meds.

My fiancee was in the percentage of women with compromised sex lives. She knew mind-blowing sex before she married her ex. She craved euphoric sex. He gave her the worst sex she's ever had. She told me during the early dating phase of our relationship about her asexual marriage and how it almost cost her her sanity. She vowed to never be in a relationship with a man who wasn't sexually compatible with her.

Very early in the dating phase of our our relationship, my fiancee and I created an environment that nurtured open, honest, and most importantly nonjudgmental sex communication. Our ability to openly and honestly reveal to each other anything involving sex has strengthened the bond that unites us and intensified the love we share. If my fiancee were to ask me to perform a sex act on her that we haven't done, I'd do it. How she knows why she loves it is immaterial. I wouldn't question her. I'd do it. However, she's completely comfortable telling me in graphic detail about her many sexual adventures of her promiscuous college years. I've never, ever judged her.

Lack of communication skills and too many men's irrational beliefs about women's sexuality seem to be primary causes of dysfunctional relationships.

If a husband and wife can engage in open, honest, nonjudgmental communication about sex, all other marital topics would be easy to discuss and resolve.

Am I wrong? Did I over think this? Have I allowed my empathy for my fiancee's miserable, sexually dysfunctional marriage to reach an incorrect conclusion? I don't think so. I know and have known too many couples who were in miserable marriages. But I'd love to read your analyses.

[Sancho69]

Yesterday while I was watching football, my fiancee's sexuality popped into my head. When I began dating her, she'd sometimes cry while telling me about sexual misery her ex-husband inflicted on her. She was extremely pissed off at him to the point of hatred. She told me she regretted marrying him. I told her to have no regrets. She should consider her marriage a learning experience, not a regret. Her miserably and sex deprived marriage is still a sore subject, but she has accepted that his mental illnesses were the most likely the cause. His mental illnesses piss her off because he lied to her about them. She's right. He should have told her about his mental illnesses before they married. Her kids demonstrate symptoms of their father's mental illnesses, especially her son.

My fiancee loved sex since they first time she had it. Sex is a big part of her personality. She's far more dynamic than sexual. I'm in love with all parts of her, not merely her incredible sexual skills.

Since I met my fiancee, she's been exceptionally sexually adventurous. Going off what she's told me, she's more sexually adventurous now than during her promiscuous college years when she sexually blossomed. I've never had more than a very superficial conversation about her unlimited sexual desires because I never wanted to open old wounds. For years I wondered that her sexually deprived marriage caused her to pursue sex without limits. Her former boyfriend who knows my fiancee's sexuality, desires, fantasies, and kinks almost as thoroughly as I do told me that it's probable that being sexually deprived for too many years caused her sexual pendulum to swing in the farthest direction to complete sexual freedom.

I know and have known too many couples who do not and have not engaged in open, honest, and nonjudgmental conversations about sex. I'm 100% dude. I've known a lot of dudes in my life. Many have and had irrational and unreasonable beliefs about their wives' sexuality. Years ago, a friend's wife and my then wife were doing serious happy hour drinking. While my friend and I talked sports, the girls started talking sex like mature women who are booze uninhibited will do. My friend went full weird and belligerent because our wives were talking about sex they had with other guys. He couldn't handle that his wife had a life before she met him. That was the last time I socialized with him. I felt sorry for his wife. She couldn't trust the one person she should have trusted.

My fiancee told me the same thing. She has girlfriends who are afraid of their husbands' reactions if they found out that they were not the innocent angels they believe they were.

My fiancee will admit fault in her marriage. After repeated attempts to teach her ex-husband how to enjoy mind-blowing sex, she should have pursued a deep conversation with him about his lack of sexual desire. If she had, she would have had info that would have given her options, divorce being the least desirable. She could have gone to therapy with him. If after a year he continued to neglect her sexual desires, she could have divorced him rather than throwing a lot of good years after extremely bad years.

I read the same thing on this forum. Mostly men want their wives to be more sexually adventurous. Yet they are reluctant to take the first step of opening honest and nonjudgmental sexual conversations with their wives. They can only guess their wives' sexuality, desires, fantasies, and kinks. I'd want my wife to tell me about her sexuality, sexual desires, sexual fantasies, and kinks.

Most women are at least equal to men's sexual desires. The reality of human biology is mature women have a huge sexual advantage over men. My fiancee can cum all night long. She can fuck a lot longer than I can. She can fuck many times a day every day. She's told me many, many times that the only thing that separates her from most other women is she's open and honest about her sexuality.

I thought I should clarify my original post hoping it would make sense.

[Farmboy63]

Sancho , you are truly the luckiest man to have found the perfect woman, by that i mean , it's hard to find one that will freely talk and open up about sexual desires , you both are lucky to be much younger and have both been out there and experienced a great sexual life before meeting and u both know what ur looking for , its great she's so open in telling you her desires and ur so understanding, thats what a great sex life takes . I'll tell ya bout mine sometime

[Sancho69]

Hi Farmboy,

Thank you. I appreciate it.

My fiancee has told me far more than a few times is that the only thing that separated her from most other women is she's open and honest about her sexuality. She thinks it's immature that mature couples are reluctant to have open, honest, and nonjudgmental communication about sex. She is right: sex is normal and natural. So why are adults reluctant to engage in open and honest communication about it? I fucked my fiancee's brains out on our first date. She was completely comfortable telling me her favorite sexual positions and that she loved rough, hard sex.

Women are every bit as sexual as men, assuredly more so. Human biology favors women's sexuality. They respond differently to sexual stimuli than men. It men's responsibility to create ambiances for women in which they're sexually comfortable. Foreplay begins long before a bedroom door closes.

Open, honest, and nonjudgmental sexual communication that my fiancee and I share has intensified our love for each other. Without trust, that communication would be impossible. Men must never, ever violate a woman's trust.

[num1scamp]

I of course know women who have no idea of my sexual escapades. I admit that women do talk a lot about sex when they get together at times and I've heard a lot of them complain about their sex lives. 6 of us were having lunch one day and the subject came up. 2 of us were very happy with our sex lives, one was ok with hers the others complained about either not enough or husbands that didn't satisfy them. One of the women admitted she was thinking about finding a decent lover on the side. She doesn't want to leave her husband, she just wants someone who can really satisfy her. I heard about "he won't eat my pussy" to he's just not interested in me anymore. When I was asked about my husband I told them I never refuse sex with him. I also work hard at pleasing him and in return he does for me too. One would think that's a pretty obvious thing to do. But the one who complained about no oral sex, admitted she doesn't like sucking cock. So not hard to imagine he isn't really giving his all for her either.

When I first started having sex, I found that men really liked how enthusiastic I was about it. They appreciated how hard I tried pleasing them and they reciprocated. I've never had sex with a man who didn't want more from me. I said to the ladies that they had to accept some of the blame themselves. I know that men really appreciate it when I let them know how much they are pleasing me, I try to show them in my response how much I loved it. I know they appreciate that. I do when I hear my man moan or even yell as he's cumming. It really turns me on to know I can elicit that kind of response. So ladies, make your man know how much you want him and show him. My husband always says that a smart woman dresses to be undressed. I know it works for me.

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[Sancho69]

Many women to include my fiancee have told me that they were expected to give men blowjobs. Not all men reciprocated. Women to include my fiancee told me that most men don't know how to preform oral sex. In fact, that might be the most common complaint I've heard from women have about men.

I've known many women who have less than fulfilling sex lives. It seems that they're reluctant to engage their husbands in open and honest conversations about sex.

Many women are reluctant to tell their husbands what they want. I'm sure that some women fear that their husbands might become upset if their wives know more about sex than they do.

Too many men have unreasonable and irrational beliefs about their wives' sexuality. Too many women seem to fear their husbands finding out about their extent of their sexual activities before they married. Number of sex partners is one of three common lies women tell. I've never, ever judged my fiancee for her college promiscuity. I consider myself lucky that she has exquisite sexual skills.

Men who know how to go down on women will have them begging for it before their heads are between women's thighs. A lot of deep, passionate kissing, a lot longer sucking and licking nipples and tit squeezing while a hand drifts between a woman's thigh to probe her pussy.

My fiancee is not hesitant to push my head between her legs when she wants to cum. I'll lick her inner thighs while a hand drifts over her clit. I'll suck her swollen lips into my mouth while my fingers focus more on her clit. Her sighs and moans will tell me that she wants to cum right now. I'll slide one finger inside of her drenched pussy while gently licking her swollen clit. When I get a second finger inside of her pussy, I'll massage the ridges inside of her pussy and suck and lick her clit to massive, body-trembling, levitating, explosive orgasms. I'll keep my head between her legs until her clit isn't sensitive and do it again. My mouth and tongue will work orgasms out of her clit until she's exhausted. She's had a lot of sex partners. I'm the only one who knew and knows how to perform oral sex on her.

My fiancee was extremely sexually experienced when she married her ex. She believed that she would have been able to teach him how to have mind-blowing sex. Every other man she was with loved sex. My fiancee loves sex. He refused to learn. He refused to let her teach him how to have euphoric sex. She was used to guys fucking her all night long. He'd fuck her once a week, then once biweekly, then once a month, then when she could get it and it was always bad sex. She told me that he was the worst fuck she ever had.

Women who know euphoric sex crave it.

My fiancee has told me a million times since about our second date that sex and nudity are normal and natural. Her ex was the only man with whom she was afraid to engage in open and honest sexual conversations.

You're 100% right about compliments. Women to include my fiancee told me that most men never complimented them on their sexual skills, especially blowjob skills. My fiancee does give incredibly sensational blowjobs. The reality is it would be hard to fuck up a blowjob. I always compliment my fiancee on her sensational blowjobs. She appreciates that I recognize her desire to make me feel euphoric. On the other side, she loves to suck cock. She's loved to suck a limp cock hard since the first time she did it.

My fiancee is the best sex I ever had because she loves sex. I always listen to everything she says or asks during sex. I never ask why. I do what she asks. How she knows that she loves a particular sex act is immaterial although if she's been drinking she's likely to volunteer that info.

Women who know euphoric sex crave it more than men.

[Sancho69]

I forgot to add that my fiancee has an unbelievably adorably innocent affect when she's drinking and talking sex. I can vividly remember like it was yesterday when she told me she gave the best blowjobs. We were in a secluded area of a popular So Cal restaurant. She finished a bottle of wine. It was late evening on a weekday. We were among the few remaining customers. I told her that all women think that they give the best blowjobs. She went into graphic detail describing her blowjob skills. She used her whole body to describe how she sucked cock. She carefully explained that guys are visual so it was better for her to be naked when she gave head. She said it was very important that she position her herself so guys could watch her sucking their cocks. She revealed the importance of sucking guys' balls and licking ejaculation glans at the heads of their cocks. She was so fucking adorable that I wanted to reach across the table and kiss her. She proudly told me she was able to make men cum while sucking their cocks.

About a week later while she was completely naked and sitting with her back against my bed's headboard, she asked me what I liked most about her body. I told her that I loved her pussy. She has a sexy black bush. She told me that most men loved her large natural tits. I told her that I was a legs and ass man. She thought while sipping wine and confidently saying that most men loved her tits. She used her hands as pointers to draw my attention to her tits. She was adorably innocent while she explained why men loved her tits.

I was laying on my back. My fiancee had her head on my chest. We had just finished an epic sexual excursion. She was looking at my limp cock while playing with it. She told me that she loved my cock. She said cocks weren't the same. She did not like small cocks and her one night stand with a guy who had a very samll cock. She assured me that she knew right then that she could never be in a relationship with a guy who had a small cock. We talked about cocks for at least ten minutes. She turned her head to make eye contact with me. She confidently told me that she loved to play with cocks. She didn't like condoms. She went into detail how she didn't like putting them on and she loved the feel of a man's cock inside of her. Then she got on cum. She was beyond adorable when she explained her first sexual experiences. She was amazed that cocks could shoot cum as far as they did. She'd often watch in amazement as guys' shot cum out of their cocks. She had me hard as a rock. I fucked her brains out.

Our open, honest, nonjudgmental conversations about sex allowed us to know what we wanted each other to do to each other. Our conversations were based on unbreakable trust that strengthened our relationship and intensified the love we have for each other.

My fiancee will talk sex when she's completely sober, but it's mostly bland. When she's looped, I can never predict what she'll say. She explains sex in graphic detail as though she wants me to feel what she's felt and why it was euphoric for her.