Hiatus

[vonnie1971]

I just wanted to say a few words about my hiatus from DMW.

It was an attempt to quell or suppress my desire about living in this lifestyle.

My wife and I had a really great 8 year period between children. Partner swapping with some close friends. Cards, drinking, sex.

Some times my buddy would watch the 3 of us, sometimes I would watch the 3 of them. Some times we didn't swap, we just had sex with our own spouses right next to each other. It was blissful and seemed the perfect arrangement.

During the 8 year period my wife would enjoy him by herself while I was at work on second shift.

During the same time period she also entertained another friend while I was at work.

After our second child was born, sex slowed down. Our friends divorced and life with 2 kids.

It is really hard for my wife to be comfortable enough with some one to have sex with them. My buddy did talk her into having sex with a friend of his but I had to be there for safety.

The point of my hiatus was to try to forget my desires to explore and meet new people. It was increasingly harder to meet new people that she was comfortable with for intimate relationships.

Any way, I have fallen "off the wagon" so to speak. My sexual desires have reared their head. I cannot help but to fantasize about playing again.

I don't know what my point is, maybe advice, counseling, maybe nothing but getting it off my chest.

Cu dos! to those of you who actually live the lifestyle. May you have many awesome adventures that I can read about and live vicariously through

your fan

.dave

[apollo18]

Sometimes age and circumstances dictate that we have to leave that lifestyle behind, but the desire is still there! It’s been a number of years since I enjoyed having “seconds” after watching the wife with another man, but I would do it again in a heartbeat. So I have to be satisfied with stories on DMW, fantasy or otherwise.

[kjs1961]

We haven't been active in the lifestyle since COVID.
We still get together with friends but just aren't "feeling it" the way we used to.
A couple of our former playmates have moved away during the break and a few have said "we're just getting too old for that."
I don't regret anything we did and might get into it again.
We got into it spontaneously, never planned it. So, maybe the right moment with the right person will come along and we'll be off and running again.

[vonnie1971]

Originally Posted by apollo18

Sometimes age and circumstances dictate that we have to leave that lifestyle behind, but the desire is still there! It’s been a number of years since I enjoyed having “seconds” after watching the wife with another man, but I would do it again in a heartbeat. So I have to be satisfied with stories on DMW, fantasy or otherwise.

True, I appreciate your words of wisdom. I still have some great memories to hang on to. And there are plenty of people writing about their amazing experiences.

Thank you

[vonnie1971]

Originally Posted by kjs1961

We haven't been active in the lifestyle since COVID.
We still get together with friends but just aren't "feeling it" the way we used to.
A couple of our former playmates have moved away during the break and a few have said "we're just getting too old for that."
I don't regret anything we did and might get into it again.
We got into it spontaneously, never planned it. So, maybe the right moment with the right person will come along and we'll be off and running again.

It is a bummer that covid messed up so many things.

I think that is probably why I enjoy your stories so much. They were not planned, you and Nina just rolled with it and enjoyed situations as they came up.

Maybe I am trying too hard to plan some thing. ?

Thank you for your input.

[apollo18]

The planned experiences can turn out to be the worse ones. Like when you invite a new couple to join your group and only the guy shows (she has cold.....) and he gets drunk and makes an ass of himself with the women.

[vonnie1971]

Originally Posted by apollo18

The planned experiences can turn out to be the worse ones. Like when you invite a new couple to join your group and only the guy shows (she has cold.....) and he gets drunk and makes an ass of himself with the women.

Thank you Apollo,

That does sound like a bummer. I take it that happened to you? Hopefully it didn't completely ruin that evening.