First time threesome
 

I have fantasized about doing a threesome with my wife, both with another guy and with another girl. We have done some role playing pretending to have group sex and she really gets into it. I'm pretty sure I can talk her into actually doing it. However, it would have to be someone who isn't close to us or that could cause problems.

My question is, how do you screen for a threesome. We don't want anyone we know to know we are doing this. I want to make sure we're getting someone who won't be stalking us later and someone clean.

Any suggestions????????

My advice is to be very sure that you both want to do this for REAL. My husband and I fantasized about 3somes for about a year befoe we took the jump. For us it made our marriage stronger. As far as finding a person to do it with my advice is to take your time. The internet is the best place to start I think. We joined a paid swingers site. It seems like people who pay for the service are more real. Make your add as clear as possible as to what you want. If you are going to do it do it right. Have some pics of you two but block out what ever you want. I insist on at least a G-rated pic at first for guys that respond. If I like the guy than a X-rated, if I decide to meet than I insist on a pic with them and a card with my name on it saying Hi. I make it clear that just because we will meet does not mean that I will fool around the first time. As far as the type of guy, we prefer married guys. The odds of being a stalker are lower and STD's are lower. Most couples that I have talked to prefer single guys. To each their own. Hoped that helped.

First time!
 

I think jenny2slut4u2 hit the nail on the head, like her we talked about it for a while before it happened. My wife had only been with me so her first time with another guy was a real big step for her, we decided on a mutual friend (who we knew was a swinger), they had been flurting together all night at a straight party we were at so we arranged for him to take her home from a party with the understanding that if it happened it was all right by all concerned. She did not want me there to put any pressure on her either way ,"if she went through with it it was of her own doing", we also knew that if she decided not to go through with it that we trusted the guy to be OK with that as well.
She went through with it (we were 35 and had been married 15 years and it was her first time with another guy I took her cherry when she was 19) a couple of days later the guy and his swinging partner visited us and we swapped partners.
Our main object was M F M threesomes and we started contacting (married) guys through a sex contact magazine (this was BC before computers), she decided that their was no point beating around the bush we would we would arrange to met a guy at a local hotel and l, if her was OK to both of us then we would invite him back to our place for some fun, their were only a couple of guys that we did not bring back home with us (they were either dirty or vulgar) and not our type.
As jenny2slut4u2 said married guys are a lot less risk of turning into a stalker and have a lower STD rating, we have been doing it 25 + years, all bare back and never caught an STD and are still loving it.
PS It was an incredible feeling slipping my cock into her as she told me in detail of her first time with another guy.

so many on the fence - so many weighing potential pitfalls and yet the hunger is present. Happyjoe, have you seen the other recent forum post by davey? it certainly isnt the only post like yours, many, inculding myself seem to be walking the same walk - is there something in the water? it is a strange fixation - sex is one of mortalities gifts indeed - we naturally want it to be as good, as euphoric and sensory heightened as possible - what is better than great, hot steamy sex with your lover? - answer: great, hot steamy sex with your lover and someone else....just as long as the egos and emotions stay intact, right? i have been kicking around this metephor for awhile - swinging is like socialism, it works in theory and everyone loves to talk about it. dont get me wrong, i have socialistic ideals so you know where my impetus stands in terms of bluring the lines of monogamy...but it is as slippery as an eel when trying to dissect it. good luck.

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