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Hi,
I'm at the same place with my wife as well. Although we often talk about playing with others, both in the bedroom and out, we have never gotten to the point of trying. We've discussed the how' and why's, but it's just not something she's ready to do yet, even if she finds the idea of it appealing. What my wife has explained, is that if it were to ever happen, it would be a spur of the moment thing, not something pre-planned. I'm sure for several people in this same situation, their spouses would also feel the same. Since we've first started talking about it, I've tried to not make her feel pushed, which has helped in some ways, as we have gone to some different off-premises, couples only swinger clubs and even to a fetish party. We may not have joined up with anyone, but it was still a great turn on just being there together. |
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Swing Club
Take her to an on premise swinger club where she can see people fucking. She can dance with guys or not do anything as she wishes. Some have a pool and/or a hot tub and she can get in that naked or with a suit. It may take several visits but she may start fucking.
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just some thoughts
If you just invite another person into your sex life without her consent she will probably be too nervous to enjoy the sex. It sounds like she is quite turned on by the prospect of another man but she is not comfortable with that kind of talk unless she is in the throws of passion.
You need to be working on her inhibitions more than you need to be trying to talk her into something she is nervous about, at least that's our opinion. If you are in the US there is a good chance she was raised to believe that those kind of urges were something to be ashamed of. You need to change those beliefs, if she has them. Basically explain to her that it is OK for her to give in to those urges from time to time. Don't talk her into something she may very well feel guilty about. Train her away from those feelings with kind words and fun sex. Use a dildo on her while she gives you oral and explain to her that she sucks so much with the dildo in place. Or put on MFM porn and ask her to observe how much the female enjoys the ol' double stuff! It will be only a matter of time and she will want to give you what you are wanting. Wouldn't it be so much better if she wanted the same thing, so much hotter? If you need help coming up with an effective training program give us an email, we are very into helping others find sexual liberation. Happiness is not a destination, its a journey. We hope you and your wife both enjoy that hot journey! |
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