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The story is pretty normal. When we were first together there didn't seem to be anything she wouldn't do. I experienced with her how excited she was getting a new cock and what effect that had on her sexually. After we were married and life turned "normal". She stared wanting and doing less. So we found fantasy to be fun and we enjoyed it a lot. We found that we both LOVED the fantasy of her fucking another guy. We used it all the time, and it was great. Then she asked me once if i REALLY wanted that to happen. I answered honestly. Well that was the BIG fight everyone talks about. She couldn't understand why I would want to take such a chance with our relationship and especially with her health. Since then we have been up and down. Mostly down. I feel like we are at the end of the stand off though (good or bad). I have been talking to her about my feelings lately trying to get her to see why and whats in my head. I swear she thinks it is all bad but truly it is all loving and caring. Last night I told her that it is really stupid that we have become the opposite of who we said we were going to be. We are trying our best to NOT understand each other.
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it's ok
first of all. . .just remember what your first feeling were towards eachother. . . and bring this up with her to. . . remember how great it was for her first time with your cock. . . and then remind her what it was like everytime she got a new cock . . . so exciting and something new to learn about how to please some one. . . We(my wife and I) appreciate what it is like to have a new challenge and can appreciate the difference of sex and love. . . I know my wife loves me and I love her. . . the other people we fuck on the side we might have feeling for and they might even be mixed with feeling of love. . . but while my wife and I, before we were married argreed to was that once we are married there is no out. . . we are in this for the long hall. . . and adding people to the mix of sex and life is just a natural instinct animals have. . . so we have a life long relationship that the human side of us needs to be emotionally connected to . . . and then there is that animal instinct that we also need to fill to need to fuck. . .
Molly and I had a lull for a while after our first son was born. . . she wanted nothing to do with my cock. . . which helped us to realize that (1) I am not a guy that can go with out sex for more than a couple of days. . . (2) that she love sex and cocks and anything to do with having a big cum load in, on or all over her. . . and finally (3) we have enough fun together sexually that if we add more people it will just make the time we have together sexually all the more important and special. . . so maybe set up a couple of days a week that are just for you and her to fuck or take her somewhere you two have never had sex and try to spice it up that way. . . this life style while it is not for all, most people in it love it . . . keep your head up, both of them . . . and enjoy this site there are many fine people here who have been in your situation in one sence or the other. . . remember you are not alone and it is a normal life style. . . |
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Jesus. Get over it. I haven't had sex with my wife or anyone else in over 15 years. There's nothing wrong with me - I'm not a cripple, I'm not in prison or anything like that. We just stopped having sex. Get used to it and get over it before you go nuts and do something stupid.
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I think it's time to fire a warning shot here!
Communication is king...Talk to her fact to face, explain your feelings after you sit down and write everything down on your mind so you don't leave anything out. The reason I say fire a warning shot is, unless something changes, I sense this could be the demise of your relationship. She needs to know that the reasons a lot of marriages fail and people go astray is they are looking to fulfill something that is missing...And you want her to know that you need to be heard because you don't want to be a statistic. My wife often reminds me about women who are raising children at home, laundry, cooking, cleaning, managing the household, and how it's not reasonable to have overwhelming sexual expectations from most of them. In that case, your time will come as it has with us. It's called taking advantage of an empty nest. Lots to process here. I sure feel for the both of you. |
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Wow. Thanks for all the kind words from everyone. Except Kite. I think I will just leave that alone. I will use all the advise that you have given me. Mostly I am here to get it off my chest and to feel like i am not alone. Nothing much happening the past few days. We are looking for the right direction together so to me that is a very positive sign. I will update as this goes. I don't necessarily NEED a wife that will swing, but a wife that will share a sex life with me is a good start. I am here not looking for a way out, just a way in.
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Boy do i agree with you man. My wife seems to be like that. She just won't let herself go. Has flashes of the wild kinky thing she was when we married then just turns it off. When asked about it she gets embarressed & acts like good moms don't do that kind of thing Then give her a few drinks & she get wild Then if i bring up things that excite me or i'd want to explore she looks at me like i'm a freak! Yet she talked about simular desires after she gets a buzz on. I don't get it or know how to help her let herself explore her desires.
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