What Constitutes "Cheating"?

[Trip86]

I'm in a long term relationship with my girlfriend. She's not into porn, and is happy to leave me to the porn online to do whatever I want on here.

Recently I've been chatting online to a mutual female friend, who has told me that she'd always wanted to fuck me. We are both in relationships and don't intend to leave the other person. Neither of us would do anything physical while in these relationships...

So we chatted about sex and our turn ons and what we'd like to do to each other, given the opportunity. We finished our chat, promising to do it again soon.

It was an all text chat, but I think I could get it to Pictures/Webcams if I wanted, but I don't know if that makes it something I shouldn't be doing?

My moral issue is, I'm fine with masterbating to webcam for some anonymous woman/group, but when it's somebody I know, it adds an element of guilt on my part?

Any advice? Any thoughts? Am I being a dick? Should I just go for it?

[windspear]

if something makes you feel guilty, don't do it.

Simple as that.

[djyaks]

Originally Posted by windspear

if something makes you feel guilty, don't do it.

Simple as that.

That about sums it up. I chat all the time (e-mail, text) and get very descriptive of what we want to do to each other, but Rick is part of it and knows about it too. I won't cam without him, that to me steps over it.

[num1scamp]

I agree, if you feel guilty, don't do it. Obviously she wouldn't approve or you'd have no guilt.

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[iheartbooty]

IMO you already did enough "morally" wrong.. and u have the guilt because there is SOME emotion there, since u have known the other person for some time.

[sinon]

Me and hubby wanted to say that if we cant talk about it without worrying it is probly cheating or something we shouldnt do. trust your feeling they will tell you a lot.

Good luck

[kjs1961]

What constitutes cheating is defined by your relationship.
If your wife wouldn't mind then it's not.
If on the other hand, you know that it would violate what your wife considers the terms of your relationship, then it's cheating.

[longstroker32]

Allow me to go Freudian on you. It sounds to me like you are already feeling guilty. I may be wrong but it seems to me that you are more sexually compatible with this woman and therefore are legitimately attracted to her. This woman is OK with erotic chat and talking openly about her desires, she is OK with porn, she would probably do anything that you suggested. That is a quality that you find desirable and you also find it lacking in your girlfriend. It sounds to me like you may find this other woman more desirable than your girlfriend and you already feel some guilt over that.

Originally Posted by kjs1961

What constitutes cheating is defined by your relationship.
If your wife wouldn't mind then it's not.
If on the other hand, you know that it would violate what your wife considers the terms of your relationship, then it's cheating.

I 2nd this.

[merlin3]

The thing is: you are obviously exploring other sides of people and yourself! nothing wrong with that. But you should involve your gfd in it to . Because sex is an important (not the most important) part of you relationship. If you are not comfortable in most (not all!) ways of sexuality with your gfd, you should try to grow together in to it and focus on her! she is your beloved partner. And she is to different from you you shouldn t stay together and look further. you got lucky chatting with a known person who wants you (if she really does, and is not just teasing turning you on..) but maybe involve the gfd in it...! First she has got to be at ease with you: does she sex active and does she cum and does she take any initiative towards you? Answer the questions for yourself. About known person: you might want her while you havent got her but what if you have had her one or more times.. what then. Will she be discrete and stay so ? even after a fight with her friend or your gfd?
Succes!