We want to know your opinion...

[Bill-and-Diane]

Hi everyone, one of the reasons we decided to register for this forum was to talk with and learn from people in the slut-wife lifestyle. Not only slut-wives, but the husbands of slut-wives and the men who fuck slut-wives (for a little more about us read the About Us section of our profile).

Diane loves the idea of being a total slut. It has been a strong fantasy for both of us for many years. However, she and I have very differing views on what it means to be a slut and what other people would think is slutty. Diane tends to look at it as a matter of promiscuity while for me it is more a matter of behavior. With that in mind, we'd like your input on the three different parts of Diane's sexual history on which we differ. After each numbered description there is a “Diane's Opinion” and a “Bill's Opinion”, please let us know who you agree with and why (or if you have a totally different opinion).

This topic is not an attempt to label someone or come up with a definition of a slut. Diane and I are very comfortable in our relationship and nothing you say in here is going to change that. It's just our attempt to see if others of you think along the same lines as either of us.

So without further delay...

# 1.) Diane loves to suck cock. And I mean she LOVES to do it. She says she loves the taste and feel of a hard, throbbing dick in her mouth.
Diane's Opinion: I think this is normal behavior for most women. I know that not all women like to go down on a man, but I think those that do like to do it.
Bill's Opinion: I think her enjoyment of sucking cock so much is proof that there is a slutty side to Diane's personality. In my experience (with women I slept with before Diane) women either a.) won't do it at all, b.) do it only to satisfy their partner, or c.) do it for their own pleasure, and that women who do it for choice c are sluts (in my experience).

# 2.) Diane did not have any sexual experiences until college. She lost her virginity to a college boyfriend whom she dated all freshman year (she dumped him at the end of freshman year). Sex with him was bland to say the least (she never had a single orgasm). During her sophomore and junior years she decided to be a little more wild and went home with 7 different guys over those two years (including two different guys in the same night!), but she only had sex with one of them (see #3 below for more on that). The other six were nothing but heavy petting (e.g. making out, fingering her pussy, fondling/sucking her nipples, etc.). Diane said in all 6 instances the guys were either unable to perform or never made the move to take it to the next step. Diane admits that even if the first guy fucked her she still would have gone home with the rest so it wasn't just an issue of her still trying to get laid after each guy failed to go to bat. In essence, Diane tried to have sex with 7 random guys over about 18 months (i.e. during the school year, she didn't live on campus during the summers).
Diane's Opinion: Almost all young women in college experiment. I admit that my friends did not go home with anywhere near as many men as I did and they even began to comment on it, but I still think the number of guys I went home was not that unusual for a young woman away from home for the first time.
Bill's Opinion: I think that a one-night-stand with a different guy, whom she just met that night, every 2-3 months (which would have been Diane's average) is pretty slutty. Add to that Diane admitting that she would have gone home with the same amount no matter how many of the 7 fucked her and I think it is definitely slutty.

#3.) The 2nd to last guy that Diane hooked up with before we met was the only one of the 7 who actually fucked her. She overheard two girls in a class talking about a frat party. She went to the party alone and didn't tell any of her friends, with the sole purpose of getting laid. She hooked up with a frat-brother less than an hour after meeting him! They fooled around on a sofa in the basement of the frat until she was down to just her panties. Then she got on her knees on the floor and sucked his cock while he sat on the sofa. When he was ready to fuck her he got up and opened a hide-a-bed from inside the sofa. While he stood there putting a condom on his cock, Diane slipped off her panties, climbed onto the bed and lay on her back with her legs spread waiting for him to fuck her, because she thought that would make her look easy (as opposed to him removing her panties). She said he gave her a funny look and then smiled. He fucked her hard and this was the first time she had an orgasm (3 times) from being fucked. Three weeks later was homecoming and she went back to the frat because she knew they'd be having a party. She sought out the same guy and was back in the basement. It was that time of the month so the guy didn't want to fuck her so he said “you'll just have to suck me off instead”. So Diane got on her knees (again!) and sucked him off until he came in her mouth and she swallowed her first load of cum. Two weeks later the frat was in trouble for a suspected rape incident. This freaked Diane out enough that she never went back there. Diane admits that the reason she went back and sucked him off was because she was hoping to solidify a reputation in that frat of being “easy” (a.k.a. a slut). Diane also admits that if she had continued going she is not sure how far it would have gone and that things like swallowing loads of cum from a lot more of the frat brothers or being gangbanged by them were possibilities.
Diane's Opinion: Yes it is true I was trying to get a reputation. And I'm certain he told all the other members what a slut I was and that I swallowed (I know you men out there like to talk and brag!). I can honestly say I'm not sure how far it would have gone if I continued going to the house. Part of me thinks I would never have swallowed for every guy in that house or that I would have never done a gangbang, but can I be sure of all that? No, I can't.
Bill's Opinion: I think this short period was the first time in Diane's like that her true personality was allowed to surface. She enjoyed being fucked like a slut in that basement and after having 3 orgasms from it she was hooked. After swallowing his cum I'm sure her reputation spread like wild-fire through that frat and had it not been for some SOB's violating a woman against her will I think Diane would have ended up swallowing a lot of cum and taking a lot of dicks in her, and definitely would have done more than one at a time.

Please let us know your opinions. We invite frank and open discussion about this.

[bobsfun4u]

Bill & Diane it sounds like diane loves cock and cum and being a slut but was starting to act on it when some asshole screwed up her adventure!, bet she wants to just let loose and take a ride on the wild side and experiance all life has to offer!! love to see a pic of her ! bet she's cock hardening!!!! and i'd love to help satisfy any of her fantasies!!!!!! she sounds sooooo wonderful!!!!

[Bill&Debi]

Bill&Diane, Hi, my name is also Bill. Over the years I have had several experiences with ladies that were "slutty" and for my money it is one of the hottest things a girl can do/be. They all seemed to have about the same outward traits: look you directly in the eye with a n expression of invitation on their face and a slight smile, be a bit bold in their quest, ie, walk up to you and rest their hand on your arm, etc with direct eye contact, sometimes dress in a manner that offers an invitation, frequently positioning their body, chest, legs, etc that offers an invitation, or doing some overt with someone else to tease the one they really want, ie kiss someone else while looking directly at you. Now I never said that they a 100% of the time carried it through, sometimes the logistics of it is just too hard, but it is much more about the "attitude". I am absolutely a guy that loves seeing or even just knowing his partner pleased by another, not saying I can not please her but to be able to sit back an enjoy her pleasure or carass her during is to me both physically and emotionally very satisfying. If the partner is one of those ladies that can be "slutty" before, during and after so much the better. My currrent wife had NO experience with sex before we met but took to it like a duck to water. She likes EVERYTHING but at a gut level she does not know how to be slutty and when she tries it comes out a bit "forced" and not natural. I guess the bottom line is that I think most guys like a slutty woman whether it is their partner or not. I think that alot of women can also admire a slutty woman even if they would never be that way themselves. Think they are envious of the freedom of expression. I think being slutty is a 100% about attitude and something less about the actualy doing. Hope this helpped, have fun.

[logtag]

#1 - Love a slut wife that loves to suck cock.
#3 - If being a slut was how, even then, you pictured yourself, I suspect that you would have done anything any of them wanted you to. You may have even become the "FRAT SLUT" I have seen this happen in Navy barracks at times. One or 2 girls, who become the nightly "regulars".

[num1scamp]

My first experience where I felt like a slut I was 17. I really loved the feeling and as time went on I experimented more and more. Some of the men I dated were put off by my sexual aggressiveness. Others just enjoyed it and considered themselves lucky. Some men encouraged me to be slutty, other men wanted me to be demure and I quickly learned to play the part they wanted. Luckily, I met my husband and from our first night he knew exactly what he had on his hands, and he knew how to treat me. I've been his slut for over 25 years now, and will continue to be for as long as he wants me. I revel in the feelings I have when being the best slut I can be. No woman who considers herself a good slut, could not help loving to suck cock.

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[wvwildeyed]

i would have to agree with bill on all three. after reading this a cpl of times i would not differ from his opinion on any of it. i believe he is right on the money!

[JackEagle]

B & D,

Continue to explore and see what it brings you in the way of enjoyment! Look forward to seeing pics and vids soon.

[Lori41]

I work at a not so gentlemen's club, used to dance now I meet and greet, and know a few things about being slutty. What I don't know is why you two have so many opions, I think if you'd realize who is going to actually be the slut, the one doing the things you're not sure of, you won't have so many questions. Guess I'm trying to say that if she is not comfortable with everything involved here she is not going to like it or be able to do everything you want her to do. A woman knows how to be a slut, she knows what it takes to get attention and she knows what her limits are. Trying to push anything on her is a disaster waiting to happen and I hope she lets you know this, she hasn't or you wouldn't be writing in here.
If you want to help her let her know you're behind her 100% and ask her what you can do for her, tell her you love the idea and how thinking what can come from this is such a turn on for you, again she has to feel safe with whatever she does and you have to give her a green light to do whatever she feels like at the time, that's important because it's never going to be the same circumstances when you guys go out and actually do this, and she can't do anything with you putting restrictions on her, you're going to have to trust her, and if ya can't do that... good luck !

[John Skolte]

I agree with logtag on #3. There is no doubt, according to Diane's own words, she would have become the frat's slut, gangbangs and all. This is a highly individual thing where a woman is concerned, but I approve whole-heartedly, if she's up for it.

Along with that, being a slut means loving sex and having multiple partners, #2.

As for the cock sucking, I suppose a slut COULD love sucking cock, but I don't think she'd have to. And, while a girl who loved to suck cocks COULD be a cock sucking slut, unless she also loved to be fucked and actively did so, I'd have to question the depth of her being a slut. For my own part, I am not an enthusiast of cock sucking. The only blow job I ever had was WAY too intense when I came. I have never had an inclination to repeat the act, #1.

[Bill-and-Diane]

Thanks for the replies everyone. From what we've read it seems that most people agree with me that being a slut is more about behavior and attitude and not about promiscuity. Diane admits she sees the point of this, though she also thought most people would view being a slut as being related only to how promiscuous a woman was and not how she acted in bed.

Lori41 - we're not trying to single you out, but honestly we were very confused by your reply. First you tell us that we have too many opinions, then you go on to say that we need to communicate more. Seems pretty contradictory to us - how do you think we even got those "opinions"? Diane and I are very open with each other. There is nothing we don't know about each others past, fantasies, or desires.

Then you go on to say that every woman knows how to be a slut. C'mon, you seriously believe that? So you think all women are born to naturally be sluts? I hate to break this to you but *all* behavior is learned. If all women knew how to get attention as you claim why would there be dating sites and people having trouble finding relationships. A man must learn how to make love to a woman - we aren't born knowing how to do it. And by the same token a woman who wants to be a slut must learn how to do it. No one is born being a wild-sex-addicted slut.

Finally, you state that since we are posting here it means its because I am pushing Diane into something she is not comfortable with. WTF? So in other words you are trying to tell me that the open communication Diane and I have is a lie and that the fact that we are taking things slow and learning as much as we can about this lifestyle before we jump into it is somehow a sign that she doesn't really want to do it? Seriously, we don't know what to say to this except who the hell do you think you are to judge us after reading a few words on a web forum????