First Threesome

[phillrudd]

My girlfriend and I had out first threesome last night. A buddy of mine. It was completely unplanned and unexpected. Alcohol was involved. Now we are dealing with screwed up emotions. I am sure other couples have had the same thing happen and was wondering how they have dealt with the feelings that go with it. Really appreciate any feedback.

[i_see_stars]

hey, take it easy on yourselves. Don't over think it. Don't over analyze. I think some stumble as they get confused with the misnomer that sex is invariably tied to love (the half-lie perpetuated on all of us as children which unfortunately wreak havoc on many of our own private notions of sexuality) - this basic idea creeps up up from the wells of our emotions easily and can easily ignite jealousies and uncertainties like you wouldn't believe...until now, right?. Yes, Intercourse in one instance can be the pure expression of love, but in a different context, it can also be a purely physical act tied solely to pleasure - and all points in-between. If prior to your 3some you felt unyielding love from her and reciprocate that love in your relationship, then just let it be, don't guilt yourself, your partner or your relationship over a drunken threesome. These things happen everyday ~ seriously. Find some levity, don't take it too seriously, it doesn't need to be so grave. Just take what you can from it in terms of lessons, but move on ~ together. your lives, your partnership and love can be far greater than that drunken 3some moment.