Cheating?

[eight1nches]

I have been involved with MMF's where when we played together. there where some set rules that where followed - I was happy to follow them as I was the person that was lucky to be invited in. She was hot as hell and a wicked good fuck.

As a MMF we met up 4 times - On the 4th time when I arrived she was not there yet and her hubby and I hung out and talked - I realized I had left my phone in the car and that I needed it. I went outside and she was just pulling in. She pulled me to the side out of view of the window and gave a really hot passionate kiss and said I will email you tonight. Kissing was one of the "off limits"

We had a great time that night - all three of us where left totally drained and not even able to think about wanting more

That night I got an email from her saying she wanted to start meeting me alone but she could not let her husband know.

We met two days later and was the beginning of a nearly 7 year relationship with her. I shared her with her husband one more time but she "stopped" swinging after that and we just met up ourselves. I know she had some others during that time but about 4 to 5 times a month we would spend 3 to 4 hours each meeting. She asked me to do a MMF with her again as she had a fantasy of seeing a guy suck my cock - I said sure.

That was the last time - I am pretty sure her hubby found out and shit hit the fan - she has been off the grid since

Was she cheating - I would say yes
Did the OP's wife cheat - Again I would say yes

We have yet to swing and I would like for it to happen but for it to happen I have to feel comfortable that we would only do it together or at least follow the rules that we decided on at some point and for me that means it would always been a planned for or expected event. Not some spur of the moment "hey he was cute/good lay and its all ok because I am eventually telling you about it" kind of thing

As I said I am virgin to the lifestyle and I know some couples are very much the do as you please and then come home and tell me - If both sides agree then all is cool

[boomer1959]

I understand the felling of betrayal but the stage was set and apparently no one discussed limits. A frank discussion should be had and you should figure out how to work within them. That said remember that General Patton said "never give and order that you know will not be obeyed". If your both honest about your feelings and she wants to have sex without you what are you going to do about it? Your choices are leave or deal with it. If she agrees to rules she can't follow the whole thing will unravel and the relationship will be over. Once the cat's out of the bag it is very hard to get it back in, if she likes the thrill of a side lover your best bet is to make peace and learn to enjoy it.

[John Skolte]

You HAVE, by your previous experiences, given her tacit permission to let other guys fuck her. Cheating requires intent. I do not believe she INTENDED to cheat on you. If she had, why would she tell you? Her boss, on the other hand, was clearly using her as a whore for recreational purposes. The Viagra says he intended to get as much out of her as he could--and he did! If I had been in his place, that is EXACTLY what I would have been doing. In his case, it may very well have been cheating, and clearly was intentional--the Viagra.
Another aspect--would you have been able to attend this seminar with your wife? If not, this is no different than the two times you say you let her have private times. Would you have felt different if she had had sex with someone other than her boss, say in addition to her boss? Maybe two or more other guys? I suspect you would have been even more upset.
You have opened a pandora's box with her. If you need limits on her activities you MUST discuss them so she knows what they are. Her "confession" tells me she didn't think she had transgressed any limit. For the sake of your marriage you both need to be careful, and sure in your relationship. If you are both completely committed to each other, and your relationship, I see no problem with her boss using her as a whore, like he did. I would have welcomed that happening with MY wife, and I DID try to encourage something like that happening at least once. In OUR relationship SHE was the one who set the restrictive limits she would not exceed. I was fine with her going MUCH farther than she would.

[burllleee]

I looked at her pics and you sure can't blame her boss. Any man would try and fuck her if her got her off alone...mmmmmm. Does her boss still get to use her from time to time? She is so sexy, what a beautiful pussy.
Cheating is really exciting and I bet she came several times while she was being fucked by him. I think next time she does it that you should kiss and lick her pussy when she gets home. I'm sure it was all sore, red and swollen and needed some tender kissing to make it feel better
Please keep posting, thanks

[John Skolte]

Have checked your pics and she is fantastic. What a spectacular hunk of woman.
I can't tell if you have gotten over this or not. You seem to be stuck on the cheating thing, but your captions and stories say otherwise. You have obviously resumed touching her pussy. You state that she has fucked THREE of her co-workers--including her boss, or in addition to him. Clearly things have progressed. And the idea of her being the grand prize for the weekly poker tournament winner--Wow!
I also have to wonder about your stated sharing her not only with some friends, but also some neighbors. Any problems with word spreading about her to the other men in the neighborhood via the grapevine? Guys do tend to brag about fucking a great piece of ass like you have. It might be awkward, but I would have loved to have that happen. Could end up in a "the more the merrier" situation, which it does sound like you are developing, intentionally. The idea of "cheating" is that she might take off with her lover. Your wife is spreading her legs for too many guys, mostly with your approval, to have any other lover than you. She is clearly having a ball being balled and you are apparently encouraging her, as would I.
I would be tickled to death to be in your "predicament", especially with her being fucked by her boss and co-workers. Man, you are living my dream!

[mrboots]

[quote=blueredsox21;54024]Looking for some opinions on this. my wife and I are fairly adventurous. we have shared her with other men on several different occasions. the guys she has had sex with have usually been friends or neighbors of ours. i have encouraged her pleasure and been supportive. i have participated a few times, sat back and watched a few times, and let her have private time with two different guys.

Well, my wife recently confessed to me that at her company weekend seminar she spent the weekend with her boss and let him fuck her multiple times over a 2 day period. i was irate and lost it a little...i told her she was a cheating whore. i told her this wasn't a one night thing that she shared with me....this was a sexual relationship. she didn't just give him head...she sucked his dick lovingly in the morning to wake him up. he didn't give her a quick fuck...he took a viagra pill and they had passionate sex for hours at a time. i am sure that their orgasm weren't just lustful...they were probably very intense and emotional.

she doesn't think she has done anything wrong considering our lifestyle and past experiences. i feel betrayed and disgusted and don't want to touch her pussy ever again now that her boss has "made love" to her.

I hate to say it, but in a way you sound like a buddy of mine.
For the longest time he bugged his wife to fuck me, she had never been with any one except him and after the first time her and I did the deed, she just couldn't get enough of it after that and kept coming back for more.
It turned out that I'm better endowed than he is and according to her know what to do with it.
He decide after the fact that he didn't like the idea of some one else fucking her and told her to put a stop to it.
Only she turned the tables on him and made no bones about the fact that she had discovered something she liked a whole lot and wasn't about to give it up.
She comes to my house at least twice a week for what she now refers to as her royal fucking and freedom to express herself in whatever way she wants.
Your the one that put her in the position of having the freedom to enjoy and she had the decency to tell you what took place, she could just as easily not said anything about it.
To my way of thinking, yes you are over reacting.

[bajitonz]

I reckon she is all good. She did what you guys do AND told you about it. So as far as I can see, all good.