i had a very good talk with my mom, yesterday. i asked her if she had had any other men than the one she had the affair with. she admitted that she has had sex with several men during that time. when her lover was not available, she would meet other men, mainly at the grocery stores, and pick them up. she said dad paid no attention to how long she went shopping. he was too busy watching sports on tv or hanging out with the guys at the local tap. mom said she would just smile, as she drove past dad's favorite bar and see his car in the parking lot. she knew he would be there for hours. dad was not a drinker, but he and his buddies spent a lot of time playing hearts or spades.
i asked mom how many men did she have altogether. she said she never kept count, but she thought about it (did a little counting on her fingers) and she said she could remember about two dozen. i asked her how she felt about dad during that time. she said she loved him always, but he had quit paying attention to her, taking her for granted you might say. she said if he had ever asked her what she was doing, she would have told him. sometimes she was tempted to tell him, but decide that peace in the family was better. she said she did fall in love with the man she had the affair with. but she loved dad more and she was having sex as often as she needed. i asked her how she kept us girls from knowing and she said meditation.
of course, mom asked me lots of questions over the years since she has known about jeff and i. i kept her well informed. she told me that she figured i had had sex with somewhere between 115 and 140 men. i was amazed that my mom had been keeping track. i certainly was not. she may be right about the numbers i quit keeping count after 50. i am sure i could find the exact number. i keep a diary, at my husband's request, and write about every encounter i have had. i could ask my husband, i am sure he could give me the exact number right off the top of his head.
mom quit having sex with other men, when she broke off the affair. dad was getting ill, then. she needed to give all of her attention to him. she was by his side, from then on, day and night. right to the very end. during the talk, i asked my mom is she has any one right now. she said she got out of the habit, when dad was ill and never got started again after his death. dad had health problems related to old war wounds and to the chemicals/fumes/lack of sanitation, etc that occurs in a combat zone. he had three combat tours. if my dad was alive, he would be 82.
my main reason for the talk was to get mom out. she needs to start seeing some one. she is still attractive. she has no wrinkles in her face, neck is another story, so is the hands. she is 68, too young to sit at home. i am thinking about setting her up with somebody.
i also talked to my married daughter recently. she is having a slight problem with her husband being so obsessed about her having sex with other men. she said he is beginning to wear her out. it seems that she has had sex with more than 40 men now and he is trying to get her to 50 as soon as possible. he is pressing her to go out every night lately. she said she would like to keep it to once a week or less. but hubby wants her to reach the magic 50 count. my daughter says that is the number he thinks really means that she is a hotwife. he is proud of her being a hotwife. and he will do any thing she asks as long as it keeps her sexually active. she has had him do clean up services on her for the last 10 or 12 times she has played. she is thinking about having him fluff her bulls. they are really into the hotwife thing. my husband and i are more into wife sharing/swapping. my daughter's husband has been talking about "breeding her". she has said no to that.
my husband was thrilled to find me naked when he got home. i told him of the meeting and that he is invited to the next meeting. we are looking forward to it. i called my friend and she is looking forward to meeting phil. she has seen pictures of him and said she could reall get into him.
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