slow and easy
My girlfriend had lots of experience with swinging she actually helped advise some men on this very topic. She shares these thoughts: This is very condensed.
If your wife has not had a lot of multiple partners it is not going to be easy. Men get excited just by the thought of it...not women.
First you must have her in a sense of extreme arousal when you first mention it. Work into it. Don't just bring it out of the blue.If you ever mutually masturbate that is a great time, otherwise sexy talk while she rides your cock. Start with some fantasy type games. You might just want to start out," think of making me cum outside, go for a topless ride in the dark. etc." Then eventually do it! The point is to slowly get her use to doing something out among the public with out getting caught and bring it around to a desire to be watched and/ or watching someone else. Eventually, swap a fantasy back and forth and gradually get around to "see you touch a cock" or something similar. Don't go too far at first.
If you both enjoy watching porn your are half way there. You may start making comments "isn't that a beautiful cock, wow, look at them cum, etc. get her to talk about what she sees and likes. Over several weeks or months move on to "imagine that cock in your pussy while you hold my cock" or something similar. You are slowly getting her to drop her life long inhibitions.
Using a dildo will help get her use to having something different and exciting in her. "Imagine so and so slowly entering you" as you insert the dildo...keep the fantasy going with out being threatening. It takes time. Maybe a year or two before you can actually suggest bringing the fantasy to realization. Two important rules: she must always be aroused when fantasizing and you must continually remind that her that you exclusively love her and only her. You are just enjoying sex...not loving someone else.
Keep one thing in mind: once you cross that line some women become more aggressive than their spouse which could lead to jealousy and marriage problems.
Kellyann and friend!
PS Hunt around for some books published in the 60s and 70s on real swinging for advice.
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