05-02-2013, 11:21 AM
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Sharing
Hi all
Recently I seem to have become obsessed with sharing my wife. Not really sure why, but can only assume that its the thought of either watching another guy with her, with possibly joining in at some point, or me not being there but having either her or the guy tell me everything that happened without her knowing. I've tried a couple of things to date, such as getting someone to try and chat her up via email - didn't work, and also getting someone to chat her up in work - that didn't work either, but I think that was more his fault than hers, as he didn't play it very well. A year or two ago I told her I wanted to share her, but her response really caught me off guard. Rather than saying what I expected her to say, just replied, who with. I ended up just laughing it off. Problem I have is that since we've had kids, to her sex is naughty, and almost impossible to get lol. (maybe that's why I want to see her with someone else). Whenever we do have a little session she does get very turned on, and genuinely enjoys it. My next thought is to give someone her mobile number and.see if anything comes from him texting her. I've also thought seriously about having a chat with a close friend of ours, ad I think she may be more relaxed ad she already knows him. Problem there is how he would react if I asked him, and how to bring it up with him, but also if he agreed, how she would react if he was to make a pass at her Ideally this would be set up initially by me without her knowing, as I think if she went off and had a secret affair, I'd never know anything. If anyone had any ideas on how to get this moving etc, be good to hear from you. 
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05-02-2013, 06:02 PM
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share
wow I wish I could be the one to fuck her, wow I would have so much fun using that body, mmm
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05-02-2013, 08:18 PM
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I'm not so sure that's a great idea. Think about it if she had what she perceived as an affair she may carry shame and guilt over her unfaithfulness. This would be something she was hiding from the one she's closest to and would undoubtedly cause some emotional distance between you two. If this were the case and she discovered that you instigated this i feel safe in saying she would be pissed. "with who" doesn't sound like a response from a woman dead set against the idea. Why not be open and honest about it then it would be this erotic fantasy that you and your wife explore together. You won't have to wonder about her preferences you'll know, and the two of you can seek out how to fulfill this fantasy. It wool be an erotic sensual experience that you will share together instead of hide from from one another. My wife n I have done mfm threesomes for about 4 yrs and we have never been closer. Though there is another person involved make no mistake it's all about us. If you and your wife do this together i think you will find it an experience that bonds you two together and that the true excitement and sexual energy will not be between your wife and the her sex partner but between you and your wife.
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05-02-2013, 08:41 PM
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I am going to agree with razo here. Wanting your wife to sleep with other men is one thing. Arranging a situation where she feels that she cheated on you is another. If you want her to "have an affair" without your knowledge you need to discuss this with her and clarify that you approve so that when it happens she knows that even though you don't know, you still approve.
My husband and I have this exact relationship. He has no desire to see me with other men, he never joins in or participates and I don't give him details or updates, but he is 100% OK with me sleeping with other men and is fine with me doing it as often as I want and with anyone that I want. However, I would never "sneak around" behind his back. I would not be able to deal with the guilt. Knowing that he is OK with it is key for me. I would avoid a situation where your wife may feel that she has been unfaithful. Just make it a game. She can pretend to be going to the mall, but in reality she is going out to have sex. You know where she is really going and she knows that you know where she is going, but the two of you pretend that you don't know and don't actually discuss it. Sort of an insider secret between you two that you never actually talk about.
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05-02-2013, 10:39 PM
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two way street
Razo and showoff wife both on target here!! bottom line...if she is not on board, disaster in the making. from my experience, mfm can be a great thing for the couple if both are on board. the extra guy is merely a lucky stand in for a strong secure couple and with the right couple actualy add to the sexual relationship. even her playing alone, coming home to tell you about it while you have sex or not telling you about it and both of you just knowing "unspokenly" that she was with another guy can be a great enhancer, but again she has to be on board. lastly, my advise would be that if you can get her on board, let her choose who she wants - just be open to accept what this might lead to...whether it be race, color, or otherwise!! best of luck my friend, we only live once!
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05-03-2013, 04:12 AM
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Oh wow Space, your wife is a hottie. I think she should share that sexy body...mmmmmmmmm
 I think you should keep talking to her about it and get more of her thoughts on it. Sounds to me like she's interested since she didn't just say no when you mentioned it. Please keep posting, thanks 
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05-03-2013, 10:50 AM
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I started to share my (now ex) wife after a lot of time role playing the scenario.
She was always shy and would not have instigated anything, but when we had a friend staying over.... I would recomend when you are enjoying sex together to start to mention you imagine it was someone else in your place and then see how it flows from there
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05-04-2013, 05:46 AM
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Thanks for all the comments and advice.
I did end up giving her mobile number, and he did text, however she replied that he had the wrong number and not to text again. Guess that's that then So I guess all that's left is to try and bring it up with her, maybe mention it during one of our rare.intimate moments. As I said, these are rare, so any tips on how to make these.more regular as well ad bringing up the subject of having someone join us gratefully received.....
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05-06-2013, 09:37 PM
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Experiment
If you want to be open with her and just give me a call to see how it goes, but with absolutly no intention of really meeting, then maybe that might work. I'm more into the phone chat kind of thing, mayb share pictures, but not meeting, so if that helps just break the ice then I can maybe help.
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05-11-2013, 08:02 AM
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Make sure you arer both on the same page.
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I am talking from experience, a friend of mine bugged and nagged his wife into fucking me because he thought that was something he wanted to see. At first she was not at all interested, but to shut him up, she took me to her bed and fucked me. She had never been with any one except her husband and was content with what she knew. It turned out that she discovered a whole new world of sexual fun and took to it, like a duck to water. Unfortunately, he discovered he couldn't deal with her fucking some one else and now it is a constant argument between them. He wants her to stop and she simply tells him, no way, you bugged and nagged me into fucking him and I discovered I love it. so live with it.
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