Seperated but stuck with him

	Username: lifes2short
	Date: 07-Feb-2024 21:35:32
	Mood: angry
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Hi Everyone. 

I wanted to share a personal story that has been ongoing since before christmas. i split with a man who i'd been in a relationship for five years the day after a night out that ended with accusations which was embarassing leading to a full blown argument. wasn't the first time there had been others when we had been out, i'd had enough of the insecurity of his and immaturity he showed me over the last year had grown to all time low. the constant monitoring when i'd go out alone till the time i returned felt like i had been on trial for something. before christmas we got invited to a party at a friend of mines house the night was great good music atmosphere we all was having a good night with laughs. later on heading towards 11pm roundabout my friends older son had asked me for a dance politely i said why not and danced till the song had finished then returned to my drink sat down next to my then ex, i knew there was something wrong he didn't speak went all quiet with a face like thunder just staring onwards. my friend had noticed also that his demeanor had changed when he got up and went for another drink alone she quizzed me what was wrong with him i replied i honestly dont know he hasn't spoken to me since i came from having the dance, she replied, looks to me as if he'd rather be somewhere else or wants to go, i replied probably go, when he got back soon as my friend left us alone and i spoke to him again asking him if he'd go get me a drink, he looked at me replied why dont you ask that cunt of a friends son who had his hands all over your arse, i replied, whats wrong with you your determined to ruin the night at any cost, he replied don't take me for a eff fool i seen you and him laughing together whispered in your ear hands all over your arse i watched you both. i replied, whatevers in your head your way off it was a dance nothing more its a party people dance have a good time, he replied, soon as i've drank this we're going, i replied, i'm not i'm enjoying it, he replied, your coming home with me when i go not staying here on your own with him, i replied, him? theres no him, you've put 1+1 together come up with 6 it was a just a dance ffs grow up. i got up went for another drink and stayed chatting to my friend were he was eyeballing me all of the time. i told my friend what he was suggesting and she replied, omgg how paranoid can you get, i replied, yep he's becoming pathetic. he drank more and my friends son came outside to our group having a laugh and he came out saying we're going get your bag, everyone looked at me way he carried on so i replied no i'm staying i've booked the taxi for 1am, got right up his nose that did and he did not let it go. he later went up to my friends son and told him to keep his hands off me or go near me again, he told my ex he had to much to drink and to go home that he was causing embarrasment for everyone. my friend said she didnt want him there again after embarassing me and the blowout with her son. the following day i knew that was the final straw the scene he caused and the paranoia. i told him we was finished he apologised i said no enough is enough i want out. he accused me of sleeping around and mentioned my friends son again referred to me as basically a tart with no heart. i moved myself clothes everything out of the main bedroom into the other room and asked him to leave find somewhere to go, he declined no he was going nowhere' our home is a shared tenancy not up untill june' he won't leave and i cannot afford to leave, so i rang our landlord and spoke of the predicament i'm in and told me only thing he can do is when up for renewal is only let it to me so then he'd have to leave. i had to get someone to put a lock on my bedroom door as a safeguard while he was out at work. days later i came in and he said there was no need for that putting a lock on, so he'd been in the bedroom when i been out at some point otherwise how would he have known i had a lock on the inside. left me a note saying he loved me can we try again on the kitchen table one day. followed me to my sisters in a mack and a trulby disquised checking to see where i was going or meeting, how pathetic, how low can a man stoop its a long time till june i'm determined to see it through and finally get the pathetic man out of my life. has anyone else been through the same sort of paranoid delusion with a man?