[Sancho69]

I often think about women who endure miserable sex lives because of my fiancee's sexually dysfunctional marriage. There is no reason women cannot experience boundaries of their sexuality.

What percentage of women endure compromised sex lives? What I mean is the percentage of women who are prevented from experiencing their sexual boundaries. What percentage of women are fearful of engaging in open and honest sexual communication with their husbands/fiancees/boyfriends, etc? My guess is it's over 50%.

I remember reading an article while I was in college about a woman who was post-menopausal. She resented her husband because she believed he was the cause of her benign and unfulfilling sex life. I've never forgotten that article. While I was young when I read it, I grasped its significance. Women have sexual desires that they want fulfilled.

My fiancee was every man's dream bride when she married her ex-husband. She was thoroughly sexually experienced. She had incredible sexual confidence. She had exquisite sexual skills. She believed sex and nudity were normal and natural. She loved sex. Her husband was sexually dysfunctional. He thought good sex was mounting her missionary, thrusting until he cam, and rolling off of her. She went from sex once a week to sex once a month, to sex when she could get it and when she got it, it was the worst sex of her life.

She tried to teach him how to have mind-blowing sex. He refused to learn. She once asked him to cum on her tits. It was a completely normal and innocent request. He demeaned and denigrated her and told her she was gross. She never forgave him for that. Men know to never, ever, under no circumstances demean, degrade, denigrate, etc a woman during sex, ever. There are no exceptions to that rule.

My fiancee was in literal fear of talking sex with her ex. She never dared to reveal her sexual fantasies to him, and she has many. He had no clue that he had every man's dream wife. She was an authentic bedroom porn star. He had what all men wish they had. He prevented her from telling him

Years later she found his stash of psych meds. She confronted him. He admitted to suffering from a couple mental illnesses including bipolar. He had the worst tasting cum she ever tasted. She couldn't figure out why his cum almost made her sick until she found his stash of psych meds.

My fiancee was in the percentage of women with compromised sex lives. She knew mind-blowing sex before she married her ex. She craved euphoric sex. He gave her the worst sex she's ever had. She told me during the early dating phase of our relationship about her asexual marriage and how it almost cost her her sanity. She vowed to never be in a relationship with a man who wasn't sexually compatible with her.

Very early in the dating phase of our our relationship, my fiancee and I created an environment that nurtured open, honest, and most importantly nonjudgmental sex communication. Our ability to openly and honestly reveal to each other anything involving sex has strengthened the bond that unites us and intensified the love we share. If my fiancee were to ask me to perform a sex act on her that we haven't done, I'd do it. How she knows why she loves it is immaterial. I wouldn't question her. I'd do it. However, she's completely comfortable telling me in graphic detail about her many sexual adventures of her promiscuous college years. I've never, ever judged her.

Lack of communication skills and too many men's irrational beliefs about women's sexuality seem to be primary causes of dysfunctional relationships.

If a husband and wife can engage in open, honest, nonjudgmental communication about sex, all other marital topics would be easy to discuss and resolve.

Am I wrong? Did I over think this? Have I allowed my empathy for my fiancee's miserable, sexually dysfunctional marriage to reach an incorrect conclusion? I don't think so. I know and have known too many couples who were in miserable marriages. But I'd love to read your analyses.