We first started swinging when there were very few clubs and swinger mags were the only way to find other cpls or men. You had to mail pic's and profile to mag and wait on responses then mail back to mag to be forwarded. Now in the age of internet life is good. Make sure that you first meeting is at a public place and pay attention to how the wife is responding to the man or cpl. Ultimately she is your go or no go to how things will happen. Our suggestion is to meet over dinner and drinks a couple of times with a motel on stand by just in case. We have made it a point to on the second meeting to be at a place where you can dance. The wives obviously enjoy that and they can get a chance to be close and see how the guy treats her. Just remember the wife is the decision maker in adding new partners to your relationship.

We first started swinging when there were very few clubs and swinger mags were the only way to find other cpls or men. You had to mail pic's and profile to mag and wait on responses then mail back to mag to be forwarded. Now in the age of internet life is good. Make sure that you first meeting is at a public place and pay attention to how the wife is responding to the man or cpl. Ultimately she is your go or no go to how things will happen. Our suggestion is to meet over dinner and drinks a couple of times with a motel on stand by just in case. We have made it a point to on the second meeting to be at a place where you can dance. The wives obviously enjoy that and they can get a chance to be close and see how the guy treats her. Just remember the wife is the decision maker in adding new partners to your relationship.

Will post how things turn out

chris_96 and mrboots pretty much tell it like it is. Don't go into a meeting with wild sexual expectations. You'll be disappointed. Also, be in tune with her feelings afterwards. It's usually the female partner who experiences feelings of guilt and regret. Give her lots of reassurances about how wonderful and sexy she is and how much she pleases you seeing her play with others. Our experience says that people over 30 are more inclined to meet than be no shows. Talk about it a lot together before actually arranging a meet. Be sure to let us all know how your first experience turns out.

Not sure as never have butt. I'd be honored to be a third in your first.... Hope someone with experience chimes in.

Thanks for the advise !

Sexy couple like you should be fine :)

Your first time being a good or bad experience will be greatly affected by who you do it with. You're going to find alot of people get pretty flakey when it comes to sex. You'll be disappointed more often than pleased. I suggest for this reason you try it with a couple that's done alot of swinging. They tend to be much more relaxed and comfortable in sexual matters. So they'll give you alot better first time experience and help you relax about it. And don't look for physical perfection, else you'll be constantly disappointed. Attitude is a hell of lot more important.

I can tell you from personal experience,going to a adult club is a good way to meet and associate with like minded people. Any club I know of has couples only policy,the exception to the rule being, A member may bring a single guest. The nice thing about attending a club is the fact that it is social and you are under no pressure. to do anything. If however you meet a like minded couple,you are in the position to let it be known that going someplace for some more fun and possibly get better acquainted,is on the table and the other couple will acknowledge you one way or the other and not take offense.

Thanks for all the input were going for it !