Have I deserved 100 blows or this is over reacting?

	Username: SassyHole
	Date: 20-Mar-2017 22:14:48
	Mood: horny
	Music: 24K Magic - Bruno Mars

I’ve met my Dom this morning. We were in his car chatting and at some point I told him that I’ve been exchanging a few messages with my old “virtual” Dom over the past week. He doesn’t seem much surprised but at the same time he is visibly displeased. He stops the car and asks me to get out and follow him in the back of his car. We were in a quiet location but I surely couldn’t guess that he was about to punish me there. He asked me to pull my skirt up because he wanted to make a point. I realized that this didn’t sound too good he then told me that I did something really rude and disrespectful ………really??? I have just exchanged messages with him. I was trying to explain the dynamic of what happened but this only seemed to make it worse so I just had to surrender to the punishment he wanted to give me. 100 blows with 3 different crops and his hand for last. Useless to say that despite I was trying not to cry I didn’t manage to be strong enough. The first implement has been the worse, such a stinging sensation on my butt. Every time I raised one of my feet from the ground I received 5 more so I am not sure how much was the total of them. Strangely enough when he arrived at spanking me with his bare hand at last I was almost pleased about it (I am now rolling my eyes at myself – a sensation junkie afterall????). He must have felt merciful toward the end as he was keeping my feet stable on the ground with his feet so that I couldn’t move them and earn more blows.

Well, my question is: Have I really done something so bad to deserve such a harsh punishment? I wonder if being so stern is a common ground between Doms or if I am the only one that won’t be able to talk to other people involved in the lifestyle without asking permission to my Dom?

What is the purpose of using a safeword in a BDSM scene?

	Username: SassyHole
	Date: 23-Mar-2017 17:23:43
	Mood: disappointed
	Music:

I am no expert but I've always thought that a safeword was something that the submissive could use to stop a scene without having repercussions on the Dom/sub relationship. I am now told by my Dom instead that if I use it our relationship will end.

I am very confused now and I am starting to think that all this BDSM world is just a big fraud.

Would you let your husband and Dom meet?

	Username: SassyHole
	Date: 02-Mar-2017 19:40:07
	Mood: in love
	Music: Daft Punk

I have been in a Dom/sub relationship for a few months now and both my husband and my Dom have mentioned occasionally that they would like to meet. Of course each of them has his own different agenda but I am really not sure how to proceed. The fantasy is somehow appealing and sexy but I am really worried about the possible outcome.

My husband is not aware of what I do with my Dom and I am afraid that things would go awry once they meet. So basically I am scared of how he would react watching me submitting to a perfect stranger. I am enjoying myself so far I have to admit but I don’t want anyone to be hurt so I have been keeping the two relationships separated until now.

All I have been doing with my Dom is totally out of the lines of a “normal” sexual relationship so I have no clue what my husband could think and furthermore I really wouldn’t want him to assume that I would do the same with him if he happened to be interested in any of the practices I have been engaging with my Dom.

The unusual component in this triangle is that towards my husband I act like his Domme while I submit to my Dom but my husband is unwilling to recognize his place until now…..I have never talked to him in the terms of Domme/sub and I am afraid of how he could react if I bring up the topic. I have noticed a shift in his behavior over the past few years and to my greatest surprise he seems more and more falling into the submissive position with me.

Is there anyone who could offer his opinion on this matter?