Cheating?

[blueredsox21]

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[sga6996]

This is a problem that plagues the swinging community even though few will talk about it. I have been on all sides of it. The thing about swinging is that there is honesty involved. Fucking other people is the game and BOTH people give consent. The moment someone hides the act, lies, deceives or covers up, it is cheating.

I'm not singling out one sex or another, but in my experience, the woman usually is the one who decides she can and will do what ever she wants and starts concealing her actions. In my case, most women I see more than twice start doing this very quickly. Several have fallen in love, a couple have left their marriages so they can fuck who ever they want without questions or having to ask permission (not necessarily for be or because of me). I can only think of a few couples where the woman has not done this. Those couples had iron clad relationships where the woman, as much as she loves strange cock, is all about her husband and her marriage. The rest were on thin ground as it was.

Bottom line is that she definitely cheated. Once they do, they always do it again. So are you the kind of guy who will put up with it or not? What ever works for you is the right answer. If she doesn't think she did anything wrong, she is not going to change her mind and she is not thinking of you first. It's all about her. Just understand she will do it whenever she feels like it no matter what you say or do. Your move... Good luck.

[num1scamp]

Honesty can't be compromised. My husband always let's me know what behavior is and isn't allowed, and I don't betray that trust. I did once when we dating before marriage, and I have never made that mistake again. He and I always know what the other is doing, and it keeps our marriage intact. There isn't a man or woman out there who could get me to lose his trust. I know what a good man I have and I'm not about to jeopardize that. You and your wife need to resolve this and agree on some ground rules or your marriage is probably doomed.

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[friskyous]

I think so... You encourage her sexual freedom then call her a cheating slut for enjoying it? Not very fair in my opinion. Cheating? no... not at all, she was just following the path you two had chosen. She told you about it when she didn't have to... she could have kept it to herself but she shared the experience with you. You're fortunate to have her.. count your blessings and apologize for being a dick. You can't have it both ways...

[USMC_BAREBACKER]

I think if she was straight with you about it, she's in the clear. Informed consent is key.

[JAKIEE]

she told you about her adventure, not to hurt you but to be honest dont feel betraid but joined with her because after all she did share that with you , i think you should thank her for telling you and enjoy the thought of her sexual adventure---i know i would feel closer and more in love with my wife if she came to me openly with that --hope you get past it --really

[silverone]

Originally Posted by JAKIEE

she told you about her adventure, not to hurt you but to be honest dont feel betraid but joined with her because after all she did share that with you , i think you should thank her for telling you and enjoy the thought of her sexual adventure---i know i would feel closer and more in love with my wife if she came to openly with that --hope you get past it --really

i agree completly

[Redhot9]

I don't see a problem with it since it is her boss. I have fucked my boss several times along with a coworker. I got a promotion shortly after. So I had to tell my husband, he was ok with it.

[i_see_stars]

Wow, all kinds of responses reflecting what seem to be different delights/fetishes of the lifestyle.There are so many ways of opening up a sexual relationship. Where one aspect of the lifestyle stops, the other begins & where these lines meet may be NOT be congruent with what your partner percieves no matter how much you try & each articulate the expectations of the lifestyle. Yep, she cheated, there was some betrayal too but maybe she wanted to cuck you for real and thought it was all part of the experience. Even the subdivision of cucking has its different subdivisions. for instance one could argue that the mfm threesome altogether is the most mild/tame variety of cuck - a scenario where both hub & wife have a previously discussed understanding of what they are going to experience. Moving on to the husband not participating but watching - again both on the same page. Moving on to the sub/dom variety of cuck where husband is the sub during the session. Then you get to aspects where the wife and husband have an agreement about a bf or bf's for the wifey...often the hubby is somewhat in a perceived role of control because he is setting up the encounters and dropping her off or picking her up. Then, maybe the most untethered of the variety is the hubby who just has to accept that his wifey may indulge in a cock with or without your prior understanding. She loves you, regards your otherwise domestic partnership and has regard for your relationship in the long haul but you opened up this pandoras box - she is making it work for her - maybe this is precisely the role for you & her which excites her?

[boomer1959]

I understand the felling of betrayal but the stage was set and apparently no one discussed limits. A frank discussion should be had and you should figure out how to work within them. That said remember that General Patton said "never give and order that you know will not be obeyed". If your both honest about your feelings and she wants to have sex without you what are you going to do about it? Your choices are leave or deal with it. If she agrees to rules she can't follow the whole thing will unravel and the relationship will be over. Once the cat's out of the bag it is very hard to get it back in, if she likes the thrill of a side lover your best bet is to make peace and learn to enjoy it.